Monday, June 17, 2013

Another mom taken too soon

I wanted to write a cute update about the kids today, but I'm honestly struggling this week. I found out several days ago that a friend from college passed away last week during the delivery of her second baby boy in England. I am still processing it and I am so sad for her family, her husband, and those two little boys (a 2 year old and a newborn.) She was never a close friend, but she was so sweet and caring and I know she touched many people.

She is the third friend of mine in three years to die during childbirth or from post partum complications. That number is just way too high. I hear all the time that birth is a natural process and we should just let our bodies do their jobs, but sometimes I wonder if those people remember how dangerous childbirth can be. I'm not trying to ruffle any feathers and I know that most of the time, it's fine, I'm just ranting. There's just no way to understand it or even to process it.

I feel blessed to have had two healthy pregnancies and deliveries. If you have a chance, please keep the family of my friend in your thoughts and prayers. The little boy she was delivering is in the NICU as he was not due until early August. I've been hugging my kids a lot these past couple of days....

Sorry to be depressing. Back to normal blogging tomorrow. 


  1. Oh girl. I'm so sorry. Three friends is a lot and even one would be hard to wrap your mind around. Prayers for the husband and two kids...and prayers for you as well.

  2. 3 is an incredibly high number and it must be so hard to deal with that. My heart hurts for you and for the families of those women. I don't think it's as rare as most people think. I have a friend who nearly died from childbirth recently and I had a rare complication (not necessarily related to childbirth, but related to the fact that I was in the hospital to give birth) with my last one and almost died.

  3. Okay, Birth is not dangerous. Medicine and our unhealthy eating and lifestyle habits are dangerous. Sometimes nature or genetics might make some aspects of birth unsafe.

    Birth cannot be dangerous. How else has the human race survived all these millenia, and with half the population being female, if it was?

    Losing friends this way is taking a toll on you and common sense. Let's not blame childbirth, we already have made it a 'condition' to be dealt with in hospitals for absolutely no sensible reason. That is my hang up. Since we don't know all the details of these unbearable, unacceptable losses, we cannot make blanket statements condeming a condition of human existence.

    1. Christine, I had a 100% natural birth in a freestanding birth center seven months ago and had some very serious and unexpected complications, simply from the speed of my daughter's birth. I agree that birth IS a natural and beautiful thing, but to be honest, while I will likely do it again (more than once), I am a little bit terrified knowing that I am not in complete control of how my body will react to each birthing experience. Thankfully I had proper assistance at my birth, because 100-200 years ago I probably would not have survived it.

      Praying for you, Steph, and the families who lost their precious mamas too soon. :(

    2. Wow, Christine, that was completely rude and unnecessary. She isn't looking to start a debate on whether or not child birth is dangerous. She was sharing her feelings, which she is more than welcome to do considering it's HER blog! I can't believe you would say something so insensitive that it is affecting her common sense. People do die from complications in childbirth and they did die from it way back when. I think you need to remember the old saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

  4. Oh I am so sorry! I can't imagine- How heartbreaking for everyone.

  5. I'm so sorry! That's a shocking number of people you know who have been lost through childbirth. I wish those little boys the best.



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