I feel like my life revolves around sleep. Is Grace going to nap? How many naps will Connor take? Will he do cat naps or actually give me some decent time to get some things done. And finally, will he sleep through the night?
For month, we had a routine going for bedtime. We would put Grace to bed and then get Connor changed for bed and into his swaddle. He would nurse and cuddle for an hour or so until he finally fell asleep and I could put him down. The swaddle immediately calmed him down and he normally slept in 4-5 hour stretches. When he reached 6 months, he started outgrowing his swaddles and suddenly he started fighting them like crazy. The hour of calm nursing and cuddling turned into several hours of him fighting and arching his back. So we decided to stop swaddling him. Between moving him out of the swaddle and his first two teeth popping through. my nights of decent sleep quickly disappeared! He was up every 1-2 hours consistently and it took forever to go back down.
I would try to nurse him to sleep, but the moment I moved him he would wake up. He just wouldn't settle to sleep for me and I was getting desperate. After a month of him being up every 1-2 hours each night, we decided that it was time to try Ferber. For those who don't know, Ferber is a sleep training method that focuses on putting baby down when they are awake but drowsy and then going in to comfort them at intervals without picking them up. I wasn't sure how it would work for Connor but the first night we tried it, I was amazed. He never even really cried. He fussed for a couple of minutes and then played and talked for a while. I went in after 2 minutes and then after 5 minutes, told him good night and patted him back. After 8 minutes, he was asleep and slept all night long.
Lately, he has started rolling on to his belly to sleep and he seems much more comfortable that way. He can roll both ways easily so I don't worry about him sleeping on his belly anymore. While I used to pick him up every time he cried during the night, now I try turning on his sleep sheep and giving him his pacifier and he normally falls right back to sleep with no fussing. If he continues to fuss, I feed him and he goes right back to sleep. Most nights, I feed him twice and put the pacifier back in about twice. He's getting very close to putting the pacifier back in by himself so I'm hoping that he will just do it himself soon.
I'm finally starting to feel like a normal person again due to getting reasonable amounts of sleep. He's been happier and takes better naps during the day.
I know that many people don't agree with Ferber, but it works for us. Feel free to let me know if you have any questions about it!