Some of you probably think I'm crazy already just from the title of this post. Trust me, I'm not. I've been contemplating writing this post for ages and have drafted it several times only to delete it because it's been written out of anger. Anger that often when I mention that I had a c-section with Grace I see someone roll their eyes. I hear people constantly tell me how awful c-sections are and how I should try for a VBAC. These people have no idea what happened during my labor or what complications I'm dealing with due to my health and this pregnancy. Instead, they hear the word c-section and automatically judge my decisions. I have explained in a previous post why I chose to do a repeat c-section with Connor and not a VBAC. It was not an easy decision and I know the risks that I am taking.
Let me stop for a second and say that I know that c-sections are overused. I know that many women are forced into them and that many women who could have vaginal births are coerced into having them. I am not unaware of those statistics. However, there are some situations in which a c-section is necessary, and I believe that I am one of those cases. I never once felt forced into one and my doctor would have let me continue to labor longer had I wanted.
So why do people automatically assume that I was one of those "poor naive girls" who didn't know what I was doing or was forced? Mike and I made the decision fully aware of the risks and I thank God that we did because I honestly believe that Grace would have spent a lot longer in the NICU than she did had I labored any longer.
So why does having c-section make me any less of a woman or a mother? Why am I looked down upon because I didn't push her out the "normal" way? I am all for having the birth experience you want, but that doesn't always happen and mothers need to stop judging each other based on it. Unless you were there in the room with someone, you don't know what happened to them or why decisions were made.
So, c-sections mommies, be proud. You did what was best for you and your child!